Munachi Abi. The Beyonce to my Jay-Z. *I pray*
For all the women who have touched my life.
All the women that have blessed me.
Those that I have loved and those I have lost.
Those that have loved me and those that I’ve disliked. All the women I have wronged and I have cheated.
The ones who have hurt me and seemingly broken me.
The beautiful women and the not-so-attractive women.
The ‘spoilt brats’ and the virtuous women.
Those I have wanted and those who have wanted me back.
Also the women I have wanted and who haven’t wanted me back.
The women who I’ve tasted their lips and those who have kissed me.
Those who have taught me and those whom I have learnt from by teaching.
Those that pulled me down with their words and their actions and their thoughts.
Those that have helped me up when I was down physically, emotionally, spiritually.
The women who have inspired me through their love and care. Through their advice and help. Through their dislike and spite.
Those who have patronised me and those who have scolded me.
The strong, independent women, and the ‘OMG-please-you-must-do-everything-for-me-or-I’ll-die’ women.
Those I have seen on TV and those that I have read their words.
Those who have blessed me with their rhythms and their voices.
Those who have made me weep with sadness, with shame, with hope, with joy.
Those who have made me laugh.
Those who have made me ‘LOL’ and ‘LMAO’.
Those whom I have irritated endlessly with my unending barbs and my almost constantly annoying nature.
Those who have made me feel bliss.
Those who have made me happy.
These wonderful women. All of you.
Every single one of you. I am grateful to God for.
Thank you for helping shape the man who I am today.
Couldn’t have done it without you.
And to the ONE woman whom I will share the best years of my life with…
Baby, you’ll have it good. Because I’ll take all the lessons I learnt from all the years before, and I’ll make sure you’ll never lack for love, for warmth, for compassion, for care, for empathy, for joy, for wealth, for passion, for it all.
I’ll love you like no other. I know I will.
I’ll make you happy. That’s the whole point of love.
Signed – TAEO.
PS. Nimide Ogbeun, you don’t know this but reading your missives inspired me to write this down.
It’s just thoughts that I’ve always wanted to write down. It’ll all probably come across as a huge ramble/rant but, it is what it is. A letter to ‘Eve’.
The person who has most influenced my life would be my Mother, Mrs. Tonbara Asake Ogunmodede.
She laid the foundations for the person that I am today with her unequivocal generosity and kindness coupled with her ‘hard-headedness’ and her strength of character.
She’s helped me make wise decisions, stick to my principles, be emotionally strong, keep relationships and simply be happy.
I derive most of my character traits from her and I must say that I consider myself lucky for that.
She still is a great example that I try to follow everyday even as I establish my own path in life.
She has been a great mom, friend, colleague, supporter and even a decent ‘wingman’.
Plus, she’s a great cook, and now, I like to think I am too!
I’d never want another mother, ever.
To the best mother!