Nice guys never get some. Right?
That’s what the world says. That’s what I used to say.
I was a ‘nice guy’ once. Very nice, very naïve.
The world was for me a reflection of what I projected towards it.
I thought, “if I’m nice to the world, then the world will be nice to me”
Pretty neat philosophy, eh?
Guess what? I found out the hard way that you can only be ‘nice’ for so long
They’ll take you for granted. They’ll exploit you.
They’ll use you and they’ll dump you.
They’ll abuse you, and no matter what you do, they’ll still hate you.
So, should I now, because of all these, decide to be come evil and mean and despicable?
Should I become like the world around me, as a coping/defense mechanism?
You know what? Let’s just ask Joseph the Dreamer. Now, that was the quintessential ‘nice guy’.
He had a dream that didn’t favour his brothers, told ’em.
Was sold into slavery by his brothers (who actually considered KILLING him at first), and he forgave ’em (even though he had the power to END them anyway he chose).
Had his boss’ wife (cougar) hit on him, he did the honourable thing and rejected her.
This same woman had her Husband imprison him over a false accusation, yet, he held nothing against them.
Was forgotten by his cellmate (the Pharaoh’s butler) after helping him get outta prison, didn’t hold a grudge against him.
I could go on and on, but, mehn, brother Joseph, he tried!
Now, referencing the story of Joseph, we see some peculiarities.
He was nice all his life. But he was firm when he needed to.
He didn’t let his ‘niceness’ translate to foolishness.
he was ‘harsh’ when he needed to be, but never wicked.
Thus, we can thus tell that sometimes, being nice means dishing out tough love.
It means standing by our principles and not bending to those of the world.
It does not mean trying to please everybody because you want to be deemed ‘nice’.
We need to understand the distinction.
Being ‘a nice guy’ isn’t a function of your particular disposition or behaviour at any given instance; It is a measure of you character.
Who you are. What you are. All you are.
DON’T BE NICE BECAUSE YOU WANT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU.
DON’T BE ‘EVIL’ BECAUSE YOU WANT PEOPLE TO RESPECT OR FEAR YOU.
Joseph’s ‘niceness’ eventually saved a whole nation from starvation and destruction.
We know who he is to day because of who he was and what he did.
His ‘niceness’ is now an eternal legacy.
I mean, if I didn’t have enough inspiration to be nice, this one is reason enough for me to be!
I hope it’s reason enough for you to be too.
BE NICE. BE REAL. BE GOOD.